Anxiety is the emotion most associated with future thinking. Depression is the emotion most closely associated with thinking and being in the past. And it’s in the present state, it’s in this essential self state, this state of “I am”, this pure sense of presence where we’re connected to our senses and feelings, that’s the place where the anxiety and depression can fall away.
They leap into the air, adjust their tails, land headfirst in the snow, burrow down and hit a teeny moving target â buried 3 feet below. It’s their lunch. How does a fox catch a mouse in winter? This is amazing.
He interviews Aimee Mann, Janet Weiss, Robert Forster and a dozen other musicians.
This is what he does.
He asks people questions.
But Janet Weiss is 42, Aimee Mann is 47, and Robert Forster’s just turned 50. Older, all, than most of the musicians he talks to and writes about.
Forster’s longtime writing partner in the Go-Betweens, Grant McLennan, died in his sleep at the age of 48.
Rob tells each of them about this article he read about how, regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, or geographical location, that 40-49 is the decade of depression. That before 40 you still have a chance at changing careers. That after 50 you’ve had enough friends and family die that you’re just happy to be here.
"This is what happens in your 40s", says Aimee Mann. "You realize that willpower is not the only missing ingredient anymore."
“I think people’s attitudes need to change at a deep psychological level about how they view these different personality styles. For introverts particularly, to get rid of the guilt and the shame that they feel about who they are, but also for how the world looks at them.
As far as the world is concerned, I’ll give you three concrete places where it needs to change. Number one is in the establishment of psychology itself. What I do in my research, I was actually amazed at how biased psychology is against introversion. I expected it not to be that way because so many psychologists are introverts themselves. But I think it’s just the nature of the field that it mirrors whatever the biases are at the current time. So it used to be biased against homosexuality, biased against introversion and other stuff too. Right now, for example, they’re in a process of revising the diagnostics manual. And the last I heard is they’re considering an entry for something called introverted personality disorder. And that, to me, is just appalling.”—It’s OK to Eat Alone: Q&A with Susan Cain (the author of Quiet)